Mindfulness In Improving Our Relationships

We all long for the deep sense of contentment that comes from being in a successful and satisfying relationship. Being human, loving and being loved is something we need. But relationships aren’t always easy just as life itself is not easy.

Often times, we struggle with trying to plan A and at the same time figure out B that we don’t just enjoy the present with our loved ones without judgment and worries. Mindfulness with its centre being fully present; helps bring an emotional richness to our personal lives.

Here’s how to be more conscious in your relationship and manage conflict while gaining clarity in order to recognize the truth of your experience and respond consciously, honestly and most importantly appropriately.

1. RECOGNISE: To understand conflict, we must first be aware of what we’re bringing to the interaction. Notice your feelings, your thoughts and internal reaction to the matter. Next name them. Be aware of any thoughts that you might have.
2. ACCEPT: Now accept how you feel and what you’re thinking. Denial is only going to further complicate the issue at hand. This is the hard part. Many of us live in denial of our feelings because we have been taught there are certain emotions and thoughts, we shouldn’t express or even feel. Become open how you feel and understand that it is fine with no judgement or self-loathing.
3. INVESTIGATE: Now ask questions. Push aside who’s to blame or what you might want to do about the situation and try to go deeper into what you are experiencing. Why do you feel this way? What is the reason? Have you ever felt this way before? What did you do about it? Explore your emotions with no judgment and you may find new insight into how you behave in close relationships.
4. NON-INVESTIGATION: While you feel a certain way, say you feel rejected, choose not to identify with it. Acknowledge the feeling is present but do not let it define you. You are not how you feel. You are who you say you are. This way, you don’t let your emotions manifest into actuality. This is a liberating experience that allows you bring a calmer, more mature and wiser way or relating to people you are in conflict with.

These methods apply not just to personal relationships, but even to work and stress.